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The Importance of Being Lazy

We have swimming lessons, play dates, library visits, doctor appointments, days at the park, the zoo, county fairs.

There are trips to the grocery store, Target, the mall and various other shopping facilities. We have visits with grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends.

However, according to most parents? I don’t have my kids doing ENOUGH.

“What summer programs are you doing? What lessons are you starting?” When I say “we do swimming lessons” they look at me and say “Oh, that’s all?”

This week for example? We are going berry picking with Amy & Spencer, we have a playdate here at home with one of Olivia’s favorite friends, on Friday we are going to the Fair and on Sunday we have a birthday party.

Today? Sophia has her 3 year check-up appointment. I was planning on taking the girls to a free weekly outdoor concert and have a picnic lunch, and maybe stop by the library to update our stash of books. So I asked the girls if they were ready to start the day after they had watched an episode of The Backyardigans.

“No, we want to stay at home and hang out in our pajamas.”

“Are you sure?” I listed the things that we could do.

“No, we have a lot of new toys from Sophia’s birthday and we want to play with them.”

So, here I am, almost 11 a.m., still in my pajamas, listening to my girls having a terrific time playing with the Magnetic Dress-up Dolls Sophia got for her birthday.

Sometimes being “lazy” wins.

10 comments to The Importance of Being Lazy

  • It’s important to listen to their needs, too. American moms tend to overdo, trying to make sure their kids are meeting the benchmarks that society has determined show that they will be ‘successful’ adults. Playtime and flexibility is the most important part of being a kid, because they’ll have the rest of their lives to stick to a rigid schedule. Also- I had no idea they still make ‘paper dolls’ for girls. That’s so cool to see the new version.

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    natalie Reply:

    You are so right. Bill and I have agreed that we don’t want over-scheduled kids who don’t know how to have fun or say they are bored when they don’t have constant stimulation. They need to know that it is okay to sit still and stare off into space every once in awhile, or to make up games and use their imagination to entertain themselves. I’m sure I will expand on this topic soon, because over-scheduling drives me crazy, but there is the mommy peer pressure that makes me think I’m not doing enough.

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    Raven Reply:

    Well, obviously I don’t know about mommy peer pressure yet, but I think all you make a great point about imagination. American kids are loosing their ability to imagine and make fun, because of the constant games and virutal reality. I was amazed at the difference in Zambia, watching those kids play with plastic bags and other trash like it was this year’s Tickle Me Elmo. I found this tidbit of wisdom yesterday & I think it fits: “You cannot depend on your eyes when your imagination is out of focus.” -Mark Twain. It’s not a lazy day. You’re exercising their imagination muscles. 🙂

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  • Wow, your lazy is way more than our “active.”

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    natalie Reply:

    Haha…whatever. You are at the park every single day. That’s a lot more than I can say for us!

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    Amy @ babybabylemon Reply:

    Only because it is one block away. And I STILL don’t go every day. I do try, though.

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  • Morgan

    i love this! and i totally agree with you. vincent asks me all the time if we can just stay home in our jammies. i definitely hear you on the mommy peer pressure. i know how much i can handle with the boys and that’s that 🙂

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    natalie Reply:

    I am a little scared of this next year–Kindergarten means more interaction and on a daily basis for me & other parents, which can be an awesome or awful thing. I only hope I can keep ahead of the mommy peer pressure and not bow to it.

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  • We have stuff scheduled 5 days a week but usually skip 1. And then other weeks we skip 4 days and just stay home and do nothing. Because although I found classes and playgroups and scheduled outings important in the beginning to a) get me out of the house with a baby and b) make new mommy friends, TOO MUCH gets overwhelming really fast. Especially with 2 kids.

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    natalie Reply:

    I waited way too long to do anything, because of our situation (we were a one-car family until last October), but I am finding it so overwhelming now, I can only imagine what it will be like when dance classes for both girls start & Olivia has expressed interest in karate, so…AHHH…

    I’m hoping I can find a better way to manage my time so I don’t end up sacrificing my sanity for their activities.

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